If motherhood had a soundtrack, mine would probably be somewhere between “Love Story” and “Cruel Summer”
Lately, as I watch Taylor Swift step into her Life of a Showgirl era — confident, sparkling, utterly in control of her narrative — I’ve been thinking about how much of her story mirrors my own journey as a woman, mom, and creative.
No, I’m not filling stadiums. But like Taylor, I’m constantly switching stages — between work, motherhood, ambition, and self-rediscovery. And I’ve learned a lot from the way she carries herself through life, art, and criticism.
So here’s what Taylor Swift has taught me — not about fame or fortune, but about being the main character in my own life.
1. Confidence Isn’t Loud — It’s Steady
Taylor doesn’t scream confidence — she embodies it. She trusts her instincts, even when the world doubts her, and proves herself through work.
That’s something I’ve been learning to do, too. When I returned to work after my second baby, everything felt different — new org charts, shifting priorities, unfamiliar faces. It was like walking into a remix of a song I once knew by heart.
But I decided to trust myself. I knew I was capable, even if I didn’t yet know every new lyric. So I approached it softly but deliberately — asking questions, rebuilding connections, finding my tempo again.
Every day felt like a small “re-recording” of who Fernanda is at her best — ambitious, composed, grounded. One day at a time, I was reclaiming my high-performance era, but this time with more wisdom, empathy, and grace in every verse.
Because confidence isn’t about knowing it all. It’s about trusting that you can find your rhythm again, no matter how many versions life asks you to record.
2. Smart Women Are Intentional
One of the things I admire most about Taylor is how intentional she is. Every lyric, every visual, every strategy feels like part of a bigger picture.
My goals may not be stadium tours and diamond records, but it’s made of the same substance: vision, creativity, and refusal to play small.
When I think about my corporate career and my businesses, I want them to speak the same language — to feel congruent, connected, and authentic. I don’t want to live two separate lives: the professional Fernanda, the mom Fernanda. I want it all to make sense together — to tell one cohesive story of ambition, motherhood, and authenticity.
It’s not about chasing success in different directions, but about aligning them — so that what I build outside my home reflects what I value inside it.
And when life feels congruent, when it makes sense, that’s when it starts to feel truly powerful.
3. She’s a Romantic, and So Am I
Taylor’s a romantic in every sense — she loves love, beauty, detail, and the poetry of ordinary moments. She’s unafraid to feel deeply, to hope again after heartbreak, to turn her emotions into art.
I’m a romantic, too — not just in relationships, but in the way I live. I find meaning in small rituals, in slowing down enough to notice.
For example, every morning, I grind my coffee beans by hand and make a fresh brew. It’s my at-home version of a professional cupping — the aroma, the texture, the quiet moment before the day begins. It’s not just coffee; it’s a reminder to approach life with care, curiosity, and intention.
Motherhood could easily make life feel mechanical, but rituals like that remind me that romance isn’t something we reserve for others; it’s something we can create for ourselves, in the smallest acts of presence.
4. Turning Hate Into Art (or Fuel)
Taylor has haters. She always did. And she turns every criticism into gold — literally.
That’s such a powerful lesson for moms and women. Because whether it’s unsolicited advice, judgmental looks, or even that inner voice that whispers “you’re not doing enough”, the world (and our limiting beliefs) have opinions.
What matters is what you do with them.
I’ve learned to turn criticism into curiosity and execution. I channel that energy into creating, learning, improving. Into being so good that my results speak louder than explanations.
5. Keep Your Sense of Humor (Especially When Life Gets Messy)
Even in her sharpest songs, Taylor’s humor shines — witty, self-aware, and delightfully intelligent.
That’s a trait I try to hold onto every day. Because between diaper blowouts, preschool politics, and late-night deadlines, humor saves me.
Being able to laugh at the chaos doesn’t mean taking it lightly — it means acknowledging that joy and mess can coexist.
6. You Can Be the Showgirl and the Soul
Maybe that’s what The Life of a Showgirl (and of a Showmom) is really about. Not choosing between sparkle and substance.
Taylor reminds me that we can be both — ambitious and soft, logical and creative, composed and emotional. We can dream about multimillion-dollar empires while wiping sticky little hands.
Behind every showgirl (or showmom), there’s a woman who’s building something real — not for applause, but for her family legacy.
In the End…
Taylor’s life may be center stage, but her lessons are deeply human.
And for me, that’s the beauty of being a Showmom — we perform miracles daily, unseen and unpaid, but with the same heart, humor, and grace.
So maybe we don’t have pyrotechnics or Eras Tours, but we have something just as magical: a life worth curating, day by day, scene by scene.
The Curator Mom 
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